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I am doing a report for school about abortion that deals with pro
abortion, and pro life. I think that abortion is cruel, but then I always
think, what if I was a 12 year old girl that was molested by my father, or
other family member, and got pregnant?
In that case, is the abortion any less cruel? Do you think abortion is
cruel because you believe the unborn is a person? If that happens to be
the case (and I'm not presuming that this is indeed the case, since I
don't know your views on abortion) is the unborn less human based on the
manner of conception?
First of all, being 12 is way to young to have a baby, and even if you
gave it up for adoption, I don't see how a 12 year old could have a baby
without seriously putting her body in danger.
That depends on the individual.
And if I got pregnant with a family members child, I would definitely
not want to carry that child. In those circumstances, personally I would
want to have an abortion. What are your thoughts about situations like
these, and solutions?
You asked for my thoughts on this situation, so I'll outline them briefly
and provide you with some links you may find useful.
First, pregnancies resulting from incest are quite rare. This does
not negate how traumatic this situation is, but even if one
believes in allowing abortion for incest or rape, this does not justify
the current abortion-on-demand laws.
An abortion will remove the unborn child, and may seem to be the best
action at the time, but this isn't the case. The pregnancy no longer
exists after the abortion, but the assailant and the abuse does. In fact,
it is often the assailant who insists upon the abortion to cover up
his own crimes. Most cases of incest related abortions are actually
the perpetrator or his wife/girlfriend, with the purpose of concealing the
incest. In addition, many, if not most, incest victims are given no choice
but abortion, just as they were given no choice about sex. In fact,
studies show that incest victims rarely ever voluntarily agree to an
abortion (Maloof, "The Consequences of Incest: Giving and Taking Life"
Psychological Aspects of Abortion (eds. Mall & Watts, Washington,
D.C., University Publications of America, 1979) 84-85 )
I personally know of a story about a girl who was being molested, became
pregnant, and taken for an abortion, all without her consent. One of my
girlfriends recently showed me a letter one of her friends sent her (with
the friend's permission) detailing this situation. The victim's sister's
boyfriend was molesting her, with her sister's knowledge. (I have never
understood why people who KNOW that their boyfriend/husband/whoever is
molesting someone stand by and don't do anything!!) The girl was young (12
or 13) and one month, missed her period. She told her sister. Her sister
then told the boyfriend, and they made a "doctor's appointment" for the
victim. The victim recalls going to the clinic and being put to sleep, and
then waking up and feeling cramped. She didn't know at the time that she
had just had an abortion. She did figure it out later.
The victim wasn't told what was going on, and the people at the clinic
apparently didn't ask. WHY some clinics look the other way when older men
bring in young girls for abortions is BEYOND ME. It's as if they don't
want to deal with the situation, so the girl gets an abortion and gets
plopped right back into the same situation! How incredibly pro-woman!
Incest abortions usually involve two selfish people and two victims. The
two selfish people are the perpetrator of the act, and the other person
who often knows about what is going on. The victims are the unborn child
and the young girl. The abortion doesn't solve the problem, it merely
covers up the incest and further violates the victim.
You asked about solutions....I don't have all the answers, but I can say
that, whether one believes that women should have the legal right to abort
or not, we must crack down on places which don't question older men
bringing in very young girls for abortions! Why don't clinics workers
think that something might be up when an 11 or 12 year-old comes in
for an abortion? Looking the other way assists the assailant in continuing
the crime. That has to STOP. People also need to stop looking the other
way when they know incest is occurring. I can't fathom why anyone would
ignore such a thing. Lastly, some people automatically assume that a woman
wants to abort an incest related pregnancy, and refuse to accept
any other alternative. This doesn't exactly help the victim, nor does
claiming that the girl couldn't possibly carry "that man's child" help the
victim, as it implies that women are just receptacles for the male seed,
and that the child is more his than her's! And the notion, which I have
heard mentioned by many, that all children born from rape or incest will
turn out to be horrible people is absurd. When the father of a 5 year-old
commits a crime, do we give up on the child and assume he/she is destined
to become a horrible person? Why then is such a characteristic often
applied to the unborn?
I hoped this helped somewhat. I have included some links which discuss
this issue much more articulately than I.
Resources for Women Who Are Dealing with Pregnancies Due to Sexual
The following is reprinted from The American Feminist, Fall 1998
Copyright 1998 Feminists for
Life of America.
Permission to reprint granted whenever credit line is given.
We offer these resources for women who need help dealing with a
pregnancy caused by an
assault and for children conceived in rape and their relatives who need
emotional support. In
addition, pregnancy care centers offer a host of material assistance and
Look under "Abortion Alternatives" in your Yellow Pages.
P.O. Box 1373
South Bend, IN 46624
A support group for women who are pregnant through assault and children
conceived in assault.
Life After Assault League
1336 West Lindbergh Street
Appleton, WI 54914
Evangelical Christian ministry for women who are pregnant through
assault and children conceived in assault.
- Zibolsky, Kay. Healing Hidden Hurts. Wilso, N.C.:
(available through Heritage House at 1-800-858-3040).
- Ezell, Lee. The Missing Piece. Ann Arbor, Mich.: Vine
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